Another way to Overcome Perfectionism is don’t be afraid of making a mistake or fear of the failure. Because the perfectionists always have this kind of fear in mind that, making a mistake or doing something wrong will be them fail. And because of their highest demand for achievement, they always try to optimize the detail of every process and avoid the mistake to lower possibility or zero percentage.
Being in this kind of situation, or you’re are the perfectionist you have to understand this consequence too. As a human being, there is no one 100% perfect, and the human being is often making a mistake. When we’re doing something, it reminds us about something right at its contrasting concern. Sometimes, the mistake or fault is good for us to reconsider our weaknesses, and learn to find another way for improvement. Which is said, “no pain no gain”. Meanwhile, the failure is also in the same point of view to develop yourself. Be optimistic, if you’re thinking about it in a positive way, you will have a chance to recover and develop yourself more perfectly. As the saying, “failure is the mother of success”. There are stories some remarkable people who said about daring to make a mistake or failure in life.
A Quote from Albert Einstein
A word Albert Einstein had been said, “anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.” And more, the people who have never made a mistake, of course, they may never have a chance to learn or even make a thing. Because they dare not to try anything new to them. As they will feel that they may fail by doing the mistake, and they never can see the thing besides nothing they already saw and believed. Even Albert Einstein also may fail much time before his discovery or invention. It gives a clue to every perfectionist that no one is perfect, the only thing has we ever been doing something such a thing or not before succeeding and what we have learned and developed when we met the fail.
In order to overcome your perfectionism, you should remember this quote and try to remind yourself every time you desire the perfectness of yourself. If you never make a mistake you will never make anything, and if you dare not to do anything because of afraid of making a mistake you will never have understood about the thing or even know it. So, you will try to make something for nothing in your life, and don’t say to achieve your goals or forget about your dream.
A Story from Rich Dad Poor Dad
A story from Rich Dad Poor Dad about entrepreneur and business startup. Once Robert was in a speech, and an audience raised up a question to him, did he know the statistics of startup business showed that among all startups there was only 10% success and the rest was failed. He replied “yes.” And the audience continued to ask him, if so why he still encourages everyone to found the startup by the success rate very low like this and most of the startups may fail into that 90% of failure. And Robert answered that he knew even there was 90% of failure and only 10% of success. And according to that statistics, if people tried to startup 10 times, the chance of 10% would have happened and they would be a success. However, if people try harder, they maybe success for the second time. That might be a way how Rich Dad does in the business of the 21st century.
Of course, it rare to have people that absolutely be a success at the first, or without a huge struggle, making a mistake, and failure. Then they will try again for their second chance. And, it will be not one, two, or three to define you will succeed. But it depends on how well you learn about your mistake and failure, and then perfection thing will happen to you after that.
What Jack MA Said about Failure
At most of Jack on TV dialog or interview, he always talked about his mistakes on away the Alibaba growth. And said, what people really learned is not about how people succeed but they really learned about how people fail. Because the success may inspire you only with the fantastic and ostentatious parts that people make it up, but it’s not the fact of their success most is from the failure. It will be your lesson a good lesson for whatever you do. And, the failures most are the same. It’s the same as what I have mentioned and described in my article about ‘Cherry Monsters’ in our life.
Those mistakes you have made, they are the real lesson you have to learn about for success. Instead, a perfectionist can change themselves by pursuing their perfection from the lesson learn of mistakes, failures, and what they have done to treat their perfection. It’s very good to change those mistakes and failures to supplement all of their lack points, and succeed what they always desire for, which call the perfection and make it more perfect.
Every time I have made a mistake or facing the failure even in career, living, or any area of my life. I always recall all of the above stories to remind myself to try again, even it remains only 1% of success I will try it hard 100 times to achieve. So I will see all those magic things happen one day in my life. Because I believe that, if I never do it, I won’t ever know how much it is possible even it’s a mistake, it’s a failure. At least, there is a chance for learning to develop myself for another room to succeed and realize all my dreams.
In addition to my article, I would love to recommend two books for further reading about how to cope with perfectionism as follows.