Previously, I got an article from my friend about a source of the problem, and he said it is important to read as our food of thought. Then I found that it is so important for us to understand the problem and its cause to find out the best solution to the problem. So I would like to share with the full mean it through the article as follows.
There are so many views on problem definition. They try to put the problem on the sides of others and escape from the frame of responsibility. This is becoming common and people usually do it, then it becomes attitude from daily behavior. From this essay, I would suggest the reader stop finding a place where the problem should be put, but to find where they come from. In my opinion, I think that the problem comes from 2 main sources.
Basically and the first step to identify where those problems come from, people need to roughly consider from their internal. Try your best to think about whether it is because of you or not. Any problem could happen because of you anytime, so don’t say that “it’s impossible that I can create trouble!” Even you found out that you involve only 0.00001% in this mistake, you need yourself to pay back worthily to that amount. When you say “SORRY”, don’t worry, you will not die. I mean, say “SORRY” to the 0.00001% mistake you made. If the mistake comes from you, then fix your site first. Then, naturally, your authority for correcting others will come. The power of accepting your own mistake, even a small piece, and correcting yourself is very strong in order to disable complaining from others. Simultaneously, if you keep changing others without looking at your own mistake, there’s no use. Be a changemaker!
Secondly, sources from others are automatically judged by people in their daily life, no matter what. They always come with their insight that “Haaaaa! This is not my mistake…”, always. So yeah, trouble could not happen by itself, there’s a cause. There is no such thing as something for nothing. So if others involved in the problem, change also needs to apply. Even though you try to change yourself to a perfect person, but there is no use if others don’t. Linked to the previous paragraph, of course, you have to correct yourself first then start correcting others.
These two processes will make the whole situation goes better. Comparing to your stomach health, taking medicine is a part to cure. But being on a diet is another component to make it permanent cured. No matter how much medicine you take, if you are not on the diet, your stomachache will happen again and again. So in this case, you can see; taking medicine as fixing others and being on a diet is fixing yourself.
Overall, just to alert people under one sky that, to make one problem successfully solved; you need to fix first from your side, although it is just a small piece in a big mistake. Then make another side better, if you can. But I believe that accepting and correcting your own trouble is powerful enough to influence others.