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Generally, parents are really difficult to understand their child’s character or their mistakes which look bad for them. This is can be the reason for parents to observe how their child feels or thinking. If you can find out the reason why your child doing it, you will be know how to solve it.

• Environment
• Wrong understanding; even in the child period, they have their own thinking and analyses.
• Sometimes what they did or talked about, their analyses told them that it is correct and acceptable.
• No rule or forget the rule
• Always get supporting from a family member (no dependence)
• No encouragement or/and interruption their thinking or idea
• No any attention with them

How to do if these cases happen? If you met some cases similar or the same, I have some experiences to share. It is worked well and, yeah!! If you are tried to do it with your child it is perfect.

1. Be a good model to your children

You should remember the child is following what you did; they are speaking what you spoke. Parents are the best model for their child. If you want your child love the book, you can’t touch your computer or phone while you are next to them. You need to show them how to read the book, how to understand the book’s meaning and how to make fun by reading the book. Be remember, everything you have done must be reasonable. If you don’t want your child doing bad thing, you have to show them what make it in correctly. Here is not mean that if you do something correctly, your child will not doing it wrong. At least, you can reduce their mistakes from big to the small. Let see, how much they can follow you.

2. Listen and respond to them

Listen to them as much as you can. Try to keep your communication with them very close. Share with them about your feeling and ask them to give it back, if they have. The more you listen and the more you respond to your child, you will be more understand about them. This is the best relationship between you and your child. Please keep the reasonable and positive thinking to your child. You should aware that “No silly questions from your child”.

3. Set the rule for your child which acceptable

The rule should not make it too strict or hard. It should be done with the short and easy. It’s should be done as soon as possible and do it regularly. Let me example: If the child do something wrong in the purpose (take toys from other children) they have to say sorry and give it back to the owner. They need to say “I’m not doing it in the next time, if I do it, I will not (have an ice-cream for the whole month, or I will not have birthday party in this year, or … any reasons that your child think that they can’t missed it)”. The rule should be set to make your child thinking that important and respect. Don’t change your rule often; it should be set with justice and respectful.

4. Let them independent in their ways, sometimes

We are love our children is true, but sometime let they be themself. Correct them if they are wrong, let they challenges and solve the problem. As example; if they do something wrong, you need to tell them what they had done, or what they should do after the mistakes. Some children always get supporting from their family, sometimes they don’t even know they have done the mistakes; this is because the families give them the wrong supporting. Don’t make this case to be the problem in their future.

5. Encourage and be with them

Please spend time with your children, and show them that you are really pay attention on them. Encourage is what you have to do with your child. When they have done the good things, please admire them. The child really needs it. Be positive and accompany your child to do the things they wish.

Just keep remember that, no one the same, two children can be growth in difference way. Above method is changing through child development. We cannot make one perfect method to teach or feed for all the children in the same way. But, it is flexible for the parent in observation and analyses their child behavior.