In the previous two articles, we talked about when we were reading. We should not just read the principles in the book. We should pay attention to choosing the very specific suggestions of actions and key reminders given in the book. The question is, what kind of suggested action from the book is more credible? Thus, how to judge the action suggestion from reading / a book as correct?

I have such a requirement for myself, if the author himself has practiced this action suggestion, and the action s/he uses, it will be valuable. Otherwise, after opening a book, it requires you to do this or that. You are looking at the authors themselves, they have never done this kind of thing on their own, or they have never done similar things themselves. Why should I believe you? Therefore, the author’s own actions are the most important and valuable.

For example, a book, can not tell me the truth, you have to balance the family, and also do a good job at the same time. Nonsense, everyone knew this truth principle. What the heck, if the author can throw out a schedule of his own and tell us how s/he balances family and work? Then I will accept it, and I am willing to try it according to your plan. The beyond, there is actually a deep reason. Whether it is writing a book or talking to people, it is best not to point at others, but to point at oneself first.

I remember one time when I participated in a training session, the teacher made a very strange request. Said that today is the topic of training to discuss how to give advice, and in the discussion meeting, no one is allowed to give advice to others. So strange, don’t you? Of course, to discuss how to give advice, isn’t it just that I have a problem with myself, so I ask for a group of people to give me advice for a solution? I am very surprised that suggestions are not allowed in this forum.

Later, the teacher explained it this way, I can talk about how I dealt with similar things in a similar predicament or share a similar experience. Just point to yourself, never point to others. A way to say, “What you should do this, and what you should do that”. It isn’t a way of giving a good suggestion of action, it’s a kind of gossip chatting among talkative ladies. Talk about yourself, not others. Others will find something useful to him in your case.

Of course, pointing at yourself and saying that it will always be effective for personal testing. So we do have a saying that advice is always poison and a real case is always treasure.

Just like what I share with you through articles the way of writing and reading, if you read it, I will always tell you how you should read this and how you should do that. Then imagine that the writing of a book is so thick, is it going to exhaust people to death. Because you have to read all throughout the book and do it one by one from beginning to end. What if those are the wrong ways for your own and the author state without any practice on that, you will waste your time and energy?

In contrast, everyone who reads only reads according to your methodologies. Open the book and read it. The more people read it, the more interesting it becomes. This is what a scholar looks like. So the way to write a good action advice book. Why I say that, is because the author not pointing at you or others, but s/he is pointing at themselves and rolling as a good example already. The book will tell us what excites the author.

What books do I find particularly interesting in my reading process? I point to myself and I give you advice for action. Even give you key reminders directly. For example, in some of my articles, I pick out very interesting passages from my reading, and I put them in to share with readers. Single it out. This is a book or reading that is valuable to you, why it is valuable to you because it was also valuable to me.